Monthly Archives: August 2014

How people get engaged to the ‘wrong person’

Of course, everything happens for a reason. Broken engagements and divorces, R”L, are all part of Hashem’s plan.  Let’s try to understand how some mismatched people commit to marriage. That awareness can be helpful in avoiding that for yourself.  Here we … Continue reading

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Make it comfortable for the other to open up

When dating for marriage, there are some important topics that must be discussed. These may be difficult for some people, and they may have a harder time sharing, asking, being vulnerable.   It is important not to avoid the topics because … Continue reading

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The right person to marry will depend almost totally on who you are

The right person to marry will depend almost totally on who you are. During shiduchim, you are seeking a match for you. If you don’t really know who you are, you may end up with a fine person – but not … Continue reading

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List of ‘can’t stand’s

Make a (short)  list of personality traits that really bug you. Yeah, one day you’ll work on yourself so they don’t bug you all that much. But for now,  you really don’t like being around people who do that often. … Continue reading

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On a date, be other-conscious, not self- conscious

There are only a certain number of brain cells you can use during a date.  Being self-conscious limits your ability to express yourself fully.  It also limits your ability to be fully aware. If you are using too many brain cells trying … Continue reading

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How to end a shiduch, with dignity and respect

How to keep the other person’s dignity and your own when ending a shiduch. Continue reading

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